Communication Discussion Board Questions and Responses The discussion is intended to get you thinking about the way you “perceive” others who are different

Communication Discussion Board Questions and Responses The discussion is intended to get you thinking about the way you “perceive” others who are different than you. Please watch the following videos and respond to the prompts below (500 word min. in total).

1) Please describe a time where you have felt that someone else has unfairly judged you based on the way you look, or because of a group membership you belong to (e.g., religious, political, sexual orientation( I am straight) , ethnic ( middle eastern, etc.).

2) How did this make you feel about yourself?

3) How did this make you feel about the person who incorrectly passed judgment on you?

4) Describe a time when you unfairly stereotyped an individual from a different culture? How did this make you feel once you realized you unfairly judged them?

For peer responses ( I have attached the document of the responses) : Respond to at least FIVE of your classmates’ post, addressing the following:

– How did reading their post make you feel? If you can relate, how so?

It is really important that you remain respectful to your classmates’ experiences. These are their experiences, through their eyes. Please do not belittle or downplay their experiences. A few sentences to a paragraph per response is fine. 44 minutes ago
Jacquelyn Court
Discussion Post #2
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1) Growing up, I went to school in a fairly wealthy area, even though my family and I were about middle
class. There were many times where I would meet someone outside of my hometown and they would
immediately assume just because I went to school in a wealthy area that I myself was too. During these
times, I would constantly get told that things were just handed to me even though that was farthest from
the truth. I have worked ever since I turned 15 years old and anything I wanted that I didn’t necessarily
need would come from my own wallet. In addition to that, I also grew up jewish. When telling other kids
this, there were a few times where the first words that came out of their mouths were, “You don’t look
Jewish.” I would find myself not knowing what to say in response.
2) When kids would assume I got everything I ever wanted because of where I lived, the first thing I
wanted to do was prove them wrong and show how I have worked hard throughout my life. But I knew
there was no point to try to prove someone wrong when all that matters is you know the truth. On the
other end, I never actually knew what to feel about the statements I received from others about being
Jewish. Their tone felt like they were giving me a compliment but I always knew what they were saying
could be very hurtful to others and therefor for the most part kept quiet and moved on. Looking back, I
wish I told those people the comments in which they were making can come across very rude to many
people.
3) This made me look at these individuals as being very ignorant for not thinking about the impact of their
statements before they said them. Thinking about this though made me think that there has had to be
some times in my life where maybe I was just as ignorant and said something without thinking first. We all
make mistakes in life and maybe those statements those kids were saying were mistakes they later
regretted.
4) One of my first jobs was working at this higher end swim suit store. There was many people that would
come in and out and even some people that would come in, try on the clothes for fun, and leave. My
managers used to always keep an eye out for certain people and ignore the younger people because the
logic was that many younger individuals did not want to spend this much money on a swimsuit. There
was one time were I greeted this girl who looked to be in her early 20’s and did not offer much help
because I didn’t want to waste my time. She ended up complaining of the lack of service and still bought
some swimsuits. Once I realized I unfairly judged them, this made me feel really sorry for not offering
more help. You never know who a person is by the way they look.
Sabrina Lundquist
DP#2
COLLAPSE
I don’t think I have a memorable time when someone had unfairly judged me. Usually the typical is when
people don’t know that I am Mexican and can speak spanish so often they have private conversations
around me until I have to tell them that I can understand..
I do however notice that once I tell other latin people that I can speak spanish they end up treating me
different but in a better way which I feel is unfair to those who cant. I notice that they would rather hang
out with me rather than a non-spanish speaker. Not that they treat the other people worse or anything but
you can tell they have favorites. But I feel that might be with anyone that you have common or shared
interests like the woman from the video was saying. I think it just might be easier to relate to.
It does not make me feel any different really. I am pretty used to it and because I don’t perceive it to be
harmful to myself then I do not feel any particular way to it.
Again, I can’t really remember a specific time when I unfairly judged someone. I know it has happened
before and I was both pleasantly surprised that I was wrong but also felt bad that I had judged them by
their cover. It usually makes me wonder how many times that has happened to them and how they cope
with it. I think it’s interesting that we all have unconscious bias about people and their way of life. One
time or another I believe we have all been judged poorly, and each time it makes us think about the times
we have done to others.
For that reason I think it’s important that we all travel to expand our horizons to other cultures. There is so
much out there that we can learn from other countries and cultures. At the same time we can help curb
the ethnocentrism that we all poses. I remember that I would hold a culture bias about certain cultures
until I became friends with people of that culture and learned their way of life. Each and every time I had
much to learn about their way of life and more specifically WHY they do what they do.
Currently, I am applying for a study abroad program for the same reason. So I can learn about other
cultures in Europe and to finally get a feel for how another English speaking country lives their life. It will
be interesting because it’s an english speaking country but that does not mean that the culture will be the
same although I have that bias that it will be similiar. But the shared common language does not mean a
shared way of life. I am excited to see how much I will like and excited for the opportunity to learn and
curb any conscious and unconscious bias that I may hold about that specific country.
Samantha Quiroz
Discussion #2
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1. Being a Hispanic female in the world of computer science, I am already considered one of the
minority, with an unfortunate expectation that I have to prove myself worthy to be a computer
science major. Not to mention, I had no prior experience with computer science before coming to
college. While I have learned that there are others just like me, I still struggle with having to feel
like I have to prove that I am at the same level as everyone else, and I think a lot of that inner
struggle comes from those around me in fear of their judgement about me being a female in
computer science. In many of my computer science classes there is one particular student who
always makes judges me unfairly. In almost every encounter, the student asks me questions
about topics or assignments in a condescending manner with the belief that I know nothing
because I am a female. The student even acted shocked and confused as to how I could have
been a TA in one of the upper division classes, as they thought that I was not smart enough, or
did not get a good enough grade in the class to get the job. In these instances I always feel like I
have to prove to them that I am in fact fully capable with understanding and learning the material
as much as any other student in the department.
2. Throughout the first few encounters with this student, I left the conversation sad, defeated, and
lacked the confidence in myself that I once had. I felt like maybe the student was right and that I
did not know what I was talking about and that maybe I should switch majors because I am not
capable of doing well in computer science. However, I have slowly come to the realization that
even though it might take me longer to learn and fully understand certain concepts, I am just as
capable as anyone else to succeed in my major, regardless of my gender.
3. A part of me feels sorry for the student because I feel like a lot of the negativity that comes from
their mouth is due to jealousy or lack of confidence in their own skills and abilities. While I believe
that there is a good thing in healthy competition, I think that the student needs to learn to be okay
with what they know and not have to constantly tear other students down in order to make
themself feel better. I hope that they will learn to be careful with how they speak, and make sure
that their thoughts and actions are towards building people up and encouraging them to push
forward through a very difficult major.
4. I feel like in this environment it is very easy to have a negative stereotype towards those in Greek
Life, and unfortunately I had a negative view towards them as well. I thought that it was a waste
of time and that those who were involved in Greek Life were mean, judgmental, and lacked being
academically motivated. However, I soon realized how far from the truth that stereotype was
when I met one of my good friends freshman year. She is one of the sweetest, kindest,
hardworking, and intelligent people I have ever met, and she really changed my perspective on
those in Greek Life. I realized that I judged those unfairly because of maybe one or two others
acting poorly, when in reality there are so many amazing people in Greek Life.
John Lema
Discussion post #2
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1. A time I was unfairly judged happened when I was much younger. In 2nd grade I met one of my friends
that I still have to this day. He invited me to come stay over one day and something I didn’t know about
my friend at the time was he comes from a very religious family. I arrive at his house and his father opens
the door. Instead of introducing himself, he asks me what religion my family associates themselves
with. My family hasn’t attended church a single time so I told him we didn’t follow a specific religion. He
then told my friend that he shouldn’t waste his time being friends with someone who doesn’t have a
religious household.
2. At the time I didn’t really understand why an adult would ever say something like that to an eight-year-old
kid. It made me feel as if I didn’t even belong in the same room as that guy. He judged my entire family
and decided his family was better off not ever associating with us because we don’t have a religious
background. Feeling as if you’re worth any less than anyone else is something no one should ever have
to go through. I especially felt bad for my friend. To have a dad with a mindset like that sure doesn’t
make life any easier. Feeling as if you’re worth any less than anyone else is something no one should
ever have to go through.
3. I obviously do not like this guy. I don’t think I’ve talked to him since that day and don’t plan on doing it
anytime soon. I feel pretty bad for people that have an entitled mentality like his. Odds are though it’s
probably not even his fault he has that mindset. Narrow mindsets like that come from people that raised
him. That’s the only logic I can use to rationalize why someone would ever think to say that.
4. Now after going on a rant about how could someone ever have a narrow mindset where they stereotype
someone or an entire group, I am guilty of stereotyping someone. In my hometown you know where you
should be safe to go and where you should probably stay out of if you care about your own
wellbeing. When you are younger and are told a certain area is dangerous, you associate everyone and
everything in that area as dangerous. A kid that lives in one of these areas went to my middle school. I
thought of him as someone I shouldn’t associate myself with because of where he lives. Eventually, I
actually started to talk to this kid and I find out he’s one of the nicest guys I’ve ever met. We end up
becoming good friends and I know even to this day I can ask him for anything and he would be willing to
help me. I felt very hypocritical to judge him before I ever even thought about getting to know him. It was
a life lesson that I’ll be sure to not forget anytime soon.
Melissa Cagney
Discussion Post #2
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1. I have not experienced any critical judgment based on my looks or identities until recently; I am used to
people make snide comments ever so often, but I have learned to disregard them. Chinese New Year
was on February 5th this year. For those of you who unfamiliar with Chinese New Year, there are many
traditions and taboos to be followed before, on, and after the new year begins. Some of these traditions
and taboos including cleaning, getting a haircut, eating food, and giving red envelopes; all of these
actions are symbolic of joy, wealth, and prosperity. Some things to avoid are arguments, sharp objects,
and debt. Leading up to Chinese New Year, I was in an unpleasant situation with a colleague. I told the
colleague the day before Chinese New Year that I was unable to talk the next day because I was
observing Chinese New Year. On Chinese New Year, the colleague came up to me and demanded to
speak. Instead of respecting that I previously was unavailable to speak on that day, they accused me of
using Chinese New Year as an accused to get out of talking to them since I went to class that day. The
colleague questioned how much do I really honor Chinese New Year.
2. I have struggled with my cultural identity my whole life since I am mixed. I am either too white or too
Asian. I don’t feel like I ever belong. I would never want to “pass” as full white because it is doing an
injustice to my Asian culture, but at the same time, I didn’t feel like I was knowledgable enough to
resonate with the Asian community. Chinese New Year is something the three generations of women in
my family celebrate together, and it’s during this time that I feel most connected to my Asian culture. I felt
hurt and disrespected.
3. My colleague and I come from different ethnic backgrounds. I do not know much about their culture,
and they do not know much about mine. In my opinion, they disregarded something that held such value
to me, and they only cared about their own agenda. I am more than happy to explain the traditions and
taboos, but my colleague was not interested in learning about the culture. I lost respect for the colleague
who disrespected me because I felt like it was a situation that could have easily been prevented.
4. I used to work at Hollister in high school. It was a highly trafficked mall in the heart of downtown San
Francisco. There would be shoplifters here and there stealing a few items at a time, but occasionally,
there would be groups of people that would come in and steal stacks of clothes worth hundreds of dollars.
We all had walkie-talkies and would be notified by our manager if there were certain suspicious looking
people around. These customers tended to be African American. Our job was to kind of pester them in
order to make sure they knew that we were observant of their prescience. It didn’t feel right to profile
someone based off of looks considering how diverse San Francisco. There would be thousands of people
coming in and out, and it would be impossible to profile everyone. There was this one instance where a
customer felt like we were being a little too customer service friendly and decided to yell at the employees
because she gets racial profiled often. It did turn out that she was stealing, but my point is, is that I don’t
think people who steal have a specific profile. Some people honestly steal just for the hell of it, not
because of their socioeconomic background. I felt guilty for stereotyping because it’s the golden rule of
treating people how you want to be treated. I know I had the stereotype that Asian drivers are terrible.

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